1 Corinthians 7:5 ~
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
This scripture talks about defrauding, which is to deprive of something by deception or fraud. If your feeling deprived by your husband of any thing and he has not communicated why he is depriving you, then you guys need to communicate – “Except it be with consent for a time”. He shouldn’t be depriving you unless he spoke to you about it first and you gave him consent. The reason having your consent is important is because of the next line – “that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer;. When something is unspoken, it creates unnecessary tension and distance between you two. If fasting is very hard for you, then at least pray for the time being that your man is depriving you of this need that you have, that you have given him consent for. Prayer will keep the Lord in your household and fill the distance between you two with his presence instead of tension. Fasting and prayer will help strengthen you during this time, so that you can overcome your emotional weakness by not feeding it, literally and symbolically. Food is fuel for the fleshly nature, so if you don’t feed yourself, you will give your attention to the healing of your relationship and not just how you feel, which leads to the next part – “and come together again,”. This is the make or break part, it will determine whether your relationship grows deeper or weaker.
So let’s say you didn’t fast or pray.
You would most likely call one of your friends, cry, be angry at your man, yell at him, complain to him about what he is doing and how it makes you feel, or constantly ask him what is wrong and try to get him to open up about it. All of these options give place for something bad to happen because you are trying to use your own ideas and strength and emotions to understand and fix something in your relationship.
It doesn’t always work that way.
Which leads to the next part – “that satan tempt you not for your incontinency.” Incontinence is a lack of self-control.
You would have self-control if you fast and pray. If you do not, you will do one of the options above which will allow satan to tempt you through them. And so by the time you and your man come back together after a disagreement or needs not being met, then satan will have already gained an advantage over this part in your relationship, because neither of you fasted or prayed and did not communicate and give consent to one another to have time alone or whatever the case was. If you two prayed and fasted or even just prayed, by the time you come back together, you won’t feel tension or hidden bitterness between you two. You will be able to talk things out more clearly and give affection more purely. If you disregard fasting and praying, that same situation will bother you two over and over again until it becomes very bad and has taken over much of the relationship. Satan starts small until he finally destroys. Many people take this scripture as meaning sexual but it can mean anything in your relationship (emotionally, mentally, financially, etc.) where one person feels deprived in any way.